How Therapy Works
I believe that we all have unconscious desires to master difficulties, and we have unrealized plans of how to overcome them. Since we are deeply social beings, when at an impasse, we try out those ideas in an experimental context we call therapy.
There, we use the emotional connection we carefully forge with the therapist, testing ourselves as well as the therapist.
Tolerating extraordinary circumstances as well as everyday difficulties with fewer symptoms is, of course, optimal. But the goal of treatment reaches further than that: ultimately we wish for a creative and meaningful involvement in our own lives, and even strive toward that. We have this capacity regardless of the pain and the limitations constraining us.
I pay particular attention to the shaping effects of class, gender, and ethnicity.
For more about my approach, please turn to Background.